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Trust versus suspicion
Since our son followed an accelerated, unique applied biology program, we completely
relied on his talents. Those talents don’t disappear because you’re sick, they don’t disappear because you’re not in school either. And maybe it’s even true that because of his illness, he has developed those talents even more than he would have done in school if he had been physically present. Having fewer possibilities and time to achieve something also makes people more creative. More efficiency in achieving his intended goal, passing and moving on with his class. As long as there is a goal, it’s clear where you want to go. Well, that gives a different perspective on the whole, doesn’t it? That you turn your disadvantage into an advantage. Then you are a born winner, and you know what you want. That’s called mindset and trusting that things will turn out well.
Despite everything, we still had full confidence in the possibilities within the customized education program of Suitable Education. That was also the only reason for us to invest in it, together with the school. We found the negative attitude of the school staff
towards us as parents highly inappropriate. If that’s what happens when you leave the education control to them and give them trust... is that what you get? Unacceptable!
As parents, we have the right to know where that Child Protection Services report came from. It’s quite something to be accused of something as terrible as child abuse or child mistreatment without any substantiation. A care coordinator casually mentioned, ‘Maybe it’s nothing, but I still reported it’. Huh? That’s very easy for her to say. Then you don’t understand the consequence of making such a serious report. Do you have enough insight into what you’re doing and what such an initiative triggers in people? It’s not surprising that after such a senseless statement with significant consequences for our
family, we terminated our trust in her. It showed us the incompetence with education and the lack of understanding of the impact of her actions on the well-being of our child. And yes, also on us.
Her statements indicate that she absolutely didn’t know what she had set in motion. No children of her own, so she has no clue about the damage she caused our family. But well, policies rely on loyal officials, develop an ‘improved reporting code’ that results
in injustice and suffering that is not acknowledged. We interpreted it as distrust and a direct declaration of war on our family. Unacceptable, especially considering what we were already dealing with. I’m getting angry again as I write this. Initiating education
through criminal law. Why does a country do this to its own people?
And let your contribution in this matter sink in as an education professional. When you make such a report, you should handle it carefully. Handling it carefully doesn’t mean saying, ‘Oh, maybe it’s nothing’. With such a report, you bring a lot of misery upon a
family, nothing more and nothing less. Then you should be very sure about what you’re doing. It should be beneath your professional dignity to falsely accuse people without concrete evidence. Because that’s what you do with such a report, in this case, your report. You, as a ‘professional’, set it in motion. That action comes from you. And her ‘Oh, maybe it’s nothing’ was worded differently in the letter we received from Child Protection Services. Like this passage from the received letter:
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Thuiswinkel Waarborg